Becoming A Better Me: Part Deux
Back again!
It was Sunday when I wrote to tell you all that I challenge myself to control my anger better. How have I done? Great! The first day was hard, but after that it was easy sailing! It's amazing what a little mental pause to catch yourself can do for both you and your relationships with other people.
On Monday, I wrote down each time I got angry (I got mad on and off all day long, but that wasn't as hard to brush off as when I got ANGRY), and here are my times:
5:30am - I realized that coworkers don't have to be mean to me for me to get angry, I have developed a conditioned response to certain people's faces that automatically triggers anger because I assume they will make me angry at some point in the day. So as soon as I started to get angry, I took a few deep breaths, smiled and continued my work.
9:00am - I'm guessing it's because of snippity comments that CO1 can make when she isn't getting her way. I breathed, smiled and brushed it off. Then I continued to make conversation with her, and surprisingly, she responded well and was happy.
11:00am - I've just gotten back from my lunch, and progress is at a stand-still because people are tired...it's the "afternoon" lull. All of the cookies could have easily been done by now, but only one is done because of different reasons. Before I can dwell on these reasons, I take my breaths...and all is better! :)
I've found that since that day, I've been quite pleasant. Everytime I even start to think negative thoughts, I brush them away. How do I do it? Here's what's worked for me:
When you start to get angry and think several unhealthy and negative thoughts, close your eyes. As you are slowly breathing in and out, imagine those thoughts to be right in front of you - actual objects. Now imagine those thoughts being swept away by a strong wind (or whatever you would like to get rid of them with), and all that's left is a blank space.
I hope this helps!
It was Sunday when I wrote to tell you all that I challenge myself to control my anger better. How have I done? Great! The first day was hard, but after that it was easy sailing! It's amazing what a little mental pause to catch yourself can do for both you and your relationships with other people.
On Monday, I wrote down each time I got angry (I got mad on and off all day long, but that wasn't as hard to brush off as when I got ANGRY), and here are my times:
5:30am - I realized that coworkers don't have to be mean to me for me to get angry, I have developed a conditioned response to certain people's faces that automatically triggers anger because I assume they will make me angry at some point in the day. So as soon as I started to get angry, I took a few deep breaths, smiled and continued my work.
9:00am - I'm guessing it's because of snippity comments that CO1 can make when she isn't getting her way. I breathed, smiled and brushed it off. Then I continued to make conversation with her, and surprisingly, she responded well and was happy.
11:00am - I've just gotten back from my lunch, and progress is at a stand-still because people are tired...it's the "afternoon" lull. All of the cookies could have easily been done by now, but only one is done because of different reasons. Before I can dwell on these reasons, I take my breaths...and all is better! :)
I've found that since that day, I've been quite pleasant. Everytime I even start to think negative thoughts, I brush them away. How do I do it? Here's what's worked for me:
When you start to get angry and think several unhealthy and negative thoughts, close your eyes. As you are slowly breathing in and out, imagine those thoughts to be right in front of you - actual objects. Now imagine those thoughts being swept away by a strong wind (or whatever you would like to get rid of them with), and all that's left is a blank space.
I hope this helps!
0 Response to "Becoming A Better Me: Part Deux"
Post a Comment